I'm not proclaiming to be as knowledgeable as a professional by any means, but I know some about metals used in the jewelry, cleaning, how it should fit, etc. Coworker's daughter just got her belly button done a week or so ago, and it was red. Fit of the jewelry was tight, IMO. They also told her to use non-iodized sea salt and water for cleaning, which is a no-no. You're only ever supposed to use sterile saline to clean a piercing. Basically, I'd be paranoid if I heard sketchy advice from my piercer.
Lol, I don't know. Based on recent threads, when we try to give men credit and say they are capable of emotional intelligence and complexity they fall back on the "we iz dum" excuse. When we say they are cavemen idiots, they cry and call us misandrists.